What musicians need to understand about self-esteem
In a 1992 Gallup survey, 89 percent of respondents said that self-esteem is very important in motivating a person to work hard and succeed. Self-esteem was ranked higher as a motivator than any other variable. No wonder musicians with healthy self-esteem seem to be happier, friendlier, kinder, more motivated, and more successful.
We all know self-esteem is an important component of being a musician, but what is it exactly? It's the way we perceive and value ourselves. Self-esteem encompasses our beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and judgments about our own worth. When we have healthy self-esteem, we have a positive, realistic view of ourselves, which directly impacts our mental and emotional well-being.
Did you know that self-esteem is built on three pillars: Unconditional Human Worth, Self Love, and Growing?
Unconditional Human Worth: implies that you are as precious as any other person. Worth doesn't have to be earned or proved. It already exists. Just recognize, accept, and appreciate it.
Self Love: is a feeling we experience, an attitude, a decision, and a skill that is cultivated.
Growing: is the active side of love; growing is the calm feeling of being more of what you are at the core. (Glen Schiraldi)
This was mind-blowing to me, yet it made so much sense. Your worth is yours. It's always there, Regardless of what your musical accomplishments or failures are, your core worth always has value. I never thought of Love as a skill, but it is, Knowing that growing is a form of self-love, that includes growing personally, mentally, emotionally, physically, and intellectually, was so reassuring to me.
What does all this mean? What's my point? No matter what happens, don't allow the current situation to cancel out your musical history. You didn't work as hard and come as far as you have to tell yourself you are not worthy. This is going to sound crazy, but do not tie your core worth to your instrument(s) For the reason that what happened or what's happening doesn't define your self-esteem. You are still growing, You are enough; you are worthy of whatever your vision of being a musician is.
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung
It’s important to remember that setbacks and failures are a natural part of our journey. Rather than letting them undermine your self-esteem, view them as opportunities for growth. Learn from your mistakes, adapt, and embrace resilience. Each experience is a stepping stone towards success, and with a healthy understanding of self-esteem, you can bounce back stronger than ever.
Candace- The happy Musician Coach
