Why meeting goals doesn't guarantee growth
As musicians, we all have different goals when it comes to our career growth. Some of us want to become famous and play sold-out shows while others want to create meaningful music that connects with people on a deeper level. Regardless of your goals, one thing is clear – growth is essential to success. However, growth looks different for everyone and can be a difficult journey.
In this blog, we'll explore the different ways musicians can achieve growth and goals. So grab a cup of coffee and let's get started!
What is self Growth? Berkeley Wellbeing Institue defines Self-growth, sometimes referred to as “personal growth” or “personal development,” as a process of developing new skills, attitudes, actions, or reactions that can have a positive impact on your life and increase your overall well-being. For example, you might be interested in developing active listening skills or skills to engage in radical acceptance because you realize the positive effects they could have on your life.
We don't grow by simply doing, we have to be intentional about it
Don't assume you will automatically grow
Just because you do doesn't mean you grow. We, humans, are very good at just going through the motions. The key is intentional personal growth as you do the work to meet your goals.
I'm not like other musicians, they're better.
True, you're not like other musicians (that's your superpower). Remember, in order to learn someone has to be ahead of you. Intentional growth becomes overwhelming when we compare. The key is to accept that your growth is not like anyone else. Learn to utilize others as inspiration, motivation, and a source of information instead.
I don't know how to grow
Find someone to teach you. I personally waited too long to do this. I was nervous, afraid of being judged, and thought "If I just keep doing, I won't need someone else". I know musicians feel the same way. I was wrong. Seeking out people ahead of me has built up my confidence, allowed me to identify limiting beliefs, and cultivate wonderful and beneficial relationships. It's ok not to know, it's not ok to do nothing about it.
I'm too focused on my goals for growth.
You're setting yourself up for short-term achievement. When growth is not a priority, achievement becomes a burden. Think of personal growth as the healthy food, vitamins, and conditioning you do to meet a physical goal.
Say you have a goal to run a marathon, You get all the gear you need, running shoes, a watch, and headphones. You put on your gear and get going. You learn a lot through trial and error and even get a minor injury. But you did it, you completed the marathon. What if you got a coach, sought out marathon runners, and did research to prepare? Not only would you smash the marathon you would probably run another marathon even better.
Working on personal growth sets you up for continued success. Growth is what happens on your way to goals, not when you meet the goal.
Candace- The happy Musician coach