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Moving through Limiting Beliefs Series

Moving through Limiting Beliefs Series

The Past, The Vow, The Suppression THE STRATEGY Ask yourself: "When have I said " I will" or "I will never" as an intense response to a traumatic event, or interaction with a coach, teacher, mentor, parent, or musical authority? Did you thrive or just survive? THE SCIENCE Intense moments in our life, create intense emotions that trigger intense responses, in three ways. A deep-rooted belief is built - Built on stories of what people thought of your failures, and what you thought of other's failures. A vow is made to never feel this way again - A promise is made out of anger, guilt The intense emotions and pain are suppressed, but not gone - you expend energy to suppress the emotions, yet they are typically felt throughout our musical career. The power of the belief is rooted in judgment and negativity instead, of freedom to grow. WHen beliefs are built on traumatic moments, they are strengthened by other people, events, and your own emotions. This makes the beliefs a reality and alters your perception of abilities. Understanding how limiting beliefs are constructed and how they weaken rather than strengthen is an excellent way of working through them. and cultivating a growth mindset. Join The Group

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Moving through Limiting Beliefs Series

Moving through Limiting Beliefs Series

Your Secret Warning System THE STRATEGY Acknowledge, don't ignore your emotions Ask yourself, Why do I feel this way? How should I express or control my actions? Here's Why Our emotions are our security system. We have been well trained to ignore or it. But our emotions simply want to be acknowledged. Our emotions are that person in the room raising their hands bringing your attention to something important. We all have emotions, and we all need emotions good and bad. We like good emotions and try to avoid the bad. The issue arises in the avoidance, when we avoid, we miss important information. Our emotions help us to determine what is important, and what we value most. If we don't give them the attention they require, our barometer gets out of whack, and our goals and purpose soon follow. So take time to acknowledge what your emotions are telling you. Join The Group

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Moving through Limiting Beliefs Series

Moving through Limiting Beliefs Series

Your Mind Is Not To Be Trusted THE STRATEGY Think of your thoughts quick forecast. Instead of allowing your thoughts to become your Identity. If you think you're not good a playing a particular piece it doesn't mean you can become an excellent musician. Before you allow a thought to swallow you whole and regurgitate you into something you're not, examine it, and redirect it in your favor. THE SCIENCE Jonathan Heston, writer of Unlimited Self says "When we're struggling with limiting beliefs, our emotional high may quickly plummet causing serious internal discord. If we don't dig into the causes of our limiting beliefs, we eventually burn out and give up entirely. The main issue is that most of us think we are our thoughts. Your mind is not to be trusted because we believe our thoughts originate from our identity. It's important that we learn to live an examined life. when we examine our beliefs and thoughts they can be reconstructed and you can fashion new beliefs." Join The Group

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Make a List

Make a List

THE STRATEGY
Make a list Make a list of all things good about being a musician. THE SCIENCE Making a list of positives forces your mind to focus on the positive. It also triggers our favorite chemicals, Dopamine, Serotonin, and Oxytocin. During this time we want to chemicals those chemical levels high. They directly affect, motivation, energy level, sleep, and weight So keep those blues away and get started on the list. What are a few things are your list? Join The Group

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Take a Break

Take a Break

THE STRATEGY Take a break Yes, even during covid, take a break from practicing. Give your instrument a good cleaning Learn something new about your instrument THE SCIENCE There is such a thing as "too much of a good thing" Taking a short break can allow your anxiety and stress to dissipate. It's a chance to reflect on your accomplishments and evaluate your future. Taking a time out will also allow you to make critical decisions about a particularly challenging piece. Join The Group

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Refresh Your Space

Refresh Your Space

THE STRATEGY Refresh your music space Keep it simple Organize your music and accessories, Add a plant or two Declutter Add some color Update your lighting Get some inspiration here THE SCIENCE Decluttering and organizing can directly lead to improving your attention span and focus: a refreshed mental space. You may find lost or old music that you were looking for or music you wanted to play. Take some time and enjoy reminiscing You may find yourself feeling inspired to learn new music and start a project. Cleaning and organizing can spark your creativity, and upon embracing this, the possibilities of where it will take you are endless. You will also feel more in control during a time when things seem out of control. How do you give refresh your space? Join The Group

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Keep Skills Sharp

Keep Skills Sharp

THE STRATEGY Keep those music skills sharp Utilize Coursera to take free courses in Music Theory, Ear Training, Music Business, and even entertainment law. Use apps like Earpeggio and EarMaster to keep yourself sharp. identify intervals, work on sight-readding, and harmonizing. If you haven't yet, give composing a shot. THE SCIENCE During all this downtime our cognitive and fine motor skills can take a real hit. The isolation and worry caused by the pandemic can alter our brain chemistry. The good thing is our brain is incredibly resilient to keep it that way we need to do our part. Learning something new will help keep your brain soft and pliable (read my blog "you're hard-headed") utilizing a different approach to practice (every 3-4 weeks) will keep those fine motor skills ready. The pandemic will come to an end, make sure you're ready to get out there and play. Join The Group

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Imposter Syndrome 4

Imposter Syndrome 4

THE STRATEGY MINI SERIES Overcoming Imposter Syndrome This is the last strategy in this mini-series I hope they have helped you as much as they have helped me. Fourth: Rewrite your script: WHen the imposter feelings start to arise, instead of saying to yourself "wait until they figure me out" say "I may not know all the answers but I am going to figure it out." Instead of saying "they no so much more than me, I'm not good enough" say " everyone here is so informed I'm going to learn so much." THE SCIENCE Anyone working in an environment that requires them to direct or educate people is susceptible to Imposter Syndrome. People at the highest risk are perfectionists. Psychologists have found the people who reframe their stumbling blocks or failers as a learning experience Have a much lower rate of Imposter syndrome. When does imposter syndrome strike you? Join The Group

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Imposter Syndrome 3

Imposter Syndrome 3

THE STRATEGY MINI SERIES' Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Third: Don't suffer in silence; talking to a mentor and or close friend is necessary. Saying your unrealistic feelings out loud in a safe space is a great way to diminishing their power. Knowing you're not alone and you have a sounding board, will boost your confidence and keep you moving forward. THE SCIENCE Imposter syndrome is rooted in shame. That feeling of shame then attacks your confidence. This leads to an internal conflict that if left unchecked can stall your progress or worse reverse the progress you have made. Psychologists haven't pinpointed out why imposter syndrome arises. They have a theory that it's rooted in childhood interactions with authority. So don't rack your brain trying to figure out why, put your energy into overcoming it. When does imposter syndrome strike you? Join The Group

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Imposter Syndrome 1

Imposter Syndrome 1

THE STRATEGY MINI SERIES' Overcoming Imposter Syndrome First: Recognize the thoughts as soon as they occur, and remind yourself that it's normal to not have all the answers and you are actively progressing. Have a reality check, If you're feeling a little stupid it does not mean you are. When your feeling doubtful try saying to yourself "this is a feeling, not a fact" THE SCIENCE What is imposter syndrome? Imposter syndrome can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. Overcoming this is a process, there is no quick fix. But you can put Imposter Syndrome into serious remission. Imposter Syndrome thoughts: It or I must be perfect, I can't fail, I feel fake. Downplaying milestones and success. Not accepting failure or mistakes as a teachable moment. When does imposter syndrome strike you? Join The Group

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Downtime is Productive

Downtime is Productive

THE STRATEGY View your downtime as productive time When you view the time you're not working on your music, just as productive as when you are working, prioritizing your downtime will become simple. THE SCIENCE The most successful people adopt a mindset that helps them work, longer, harder, and faster. Their non-work time is just as important as their work time. This mindset makes them quite resilient. They leverage the power of downtime and come back stronger and ready to make progress. What do you like to do with your downtime? Join The Group

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Share Gratitude

Share Gratitude

THE STRATEGY Share your gratitude On this day of Thanksgiving, take a moment to tell someone(s) that has had a positive influence on your musical life, how much you appreciate them, and how grateful you are for them. THE SCIENCE In positive psychology research, sharing gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships What strategies have you used? How are they working for you? Join The Group

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