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In our culture, emotions are distrusted. We’ve been taught that emotions indicate a lack of self-control. For musicians, it’s a back-and-forth relationship, but it doesn't always have to be.
Think of emotions as an Advanced Warning System or a barometer supplying important data we cannot afford to ignore or suppress. We should learn to take the time and review the data and utilize the information for success. Training yourself to understand the WHY behind emotions is a powerful skill to help communicate well and cultivate beneficial relationships,
How do you train yourself to read your emotional barometer? Or how do you train yourself to be emotionally intelligent?
Practice flipping sides - Whenever possible put yourself in the other person's shoes. Think critically and honestly about how you would feel in their position and how you would like to be treated.
Practice good communication - It's not about communicating clearly, listen to what's not being said (don't overthink it) just practice being aware.
Observe yourself - Do you rush to judgment before you know all of the facts? Do you stereotype? Look honestly at how you think and interact with other people. Do you become upset every time there's a delay or something doesn't happen the way you want? Do you blame others or become angry at them, even when it's not their fault? The ability to stay calm and in control in difficult situations is highly valued.
Practice reflecting on negative feelings - why did you feel a certain way and why did you react the way you did? having the ability to reflect and analyze instead of reliving an experience is how you grow. When you do this for yourself, you'll be surprised how well you can do this for others.
Practicing emotional awareness is how you can identify and manage your own emotions and react to the emotions of others. As you develop emotional awareness you will find that you will have more energy, be more open, approachable, and become a more resilient musician. So, get practicing!
How can practicing emotional awareness benefit you?
Candace - Happy Musician Coach
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